Here’s a question you
probably haven’t seen on this blog very often: What recipe will you put on your
gravestone? I’m not inclined to put one on mine, and I’m willing to bet most of
you won’t either. Martha Kathryn “Kay” Kirkham Andrews did, though, and I’m so
glad.
Kay Andrews was known,
throughout her long life, for her compassion and her wonderful fudge. The two
went together; when family and friends needed encouragement, she wrote them a
poem and delivered it along with a batch of fudge. What a sweetheart! She lived to be 97 and asked
that her fudge recipe be engraved on her headstone so that she could continue making
people happy by sharing the recipe. (The original engraving had a typo, calling
for one tablespoon of vanilla. The headstone has since been updated to correct
the error.) Fudge is sweet, but even sweeter is the final like on Kay's headstone: “Wherever she goes, there is laughter.”
Rosie Grant, a digital
librarian in Washington, D.C, collects and prepares gravestone recipes as a
sort of hobby. She’s posted them on her TikTok account @ghostlyarchive. Chantal Larochelle,
a graphic designer and photographer, is also into gravestone recipes and has written
about the ones she’s photographed on her Cemetery
Photography website.
I’m not an
experienced fudge maker. I’ve only made it four times. Two were when I was a
kid, didn’t know what “softball stage” meant, and didn’t get the mixture hot
enough. That put me off fudge making for close to sixty years. Then a friend
pointed me to Kay Andrew’s recipe. I got brave and I’ve tried it twice. The
first time, I flubbed softball stage again, using a candy thermometer and
managing to misread it. Though still too soft, that was closer. The second batch
(using a digital thermometer) worked! Sort of. The fudge tastes great but it's
grainy. Why? Why? Why?
Today I found a page
on Ricardo
that explains why by explaining the chemistry behind perfect fudge. My mistake
was in stirring the mixture throughout the cooking period and then beating it while
it was still hot. That “caused the formation of crystallization nuclei, anchor
points to which sugar molecules attach to form crystals.” Oh dear. Kay
Andrew did tell me to cool and then beat. I’ll get it right next time.
Kay’s recipe, as
written on her headstone, is above in my lovely drawing. To make it easier to
make your own perfect fudge (I hope), I’ll list the ingredients first and then
the directions.
Kay’s Fudge
Ingredients
2 sq. chocolate (Baker’s Chocolate
squares used to weigh one ounce. Now they weigh half an ounce. I used four
squares)
2 tablespoons butter
1 cup milk
3 cups sugar
1 tsp vanilla
Pinch of salt
Directions
Line an 8” x 8” pan with parchment
paper and have all ingredients ready.
In a heavy-bottomed saucepan, melt
chocolate and butter over low heat, stirring. When melted, stir in the milk, sugar,
and salt. Stir until sugar is dissolved.
Let mixture come to a boil over
medium-low—without stirring. Continue cooking over medium-low until the mixture
has reached 234℉ (the
softball stage. You’ll find good, clear instructions for how to test softball
stage on that same helpful page on Ricardo.)
Remove from heat and let cool—without stirring—to 109-113℉. You can hasten the cooling by putting the pan in sink of cold water. Don’t use ice water because the outer edges will cool too quickly while the middle stays hot.
When cool,
beat the mixture continually until it visibly thickens and loses a bit of its
luster, 5 to 15 minutes.
Pour into prepared pan, allow to cool completely and, as Kay Andrews tells us, eat.
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I love this post Molly, and now I'll be thinking about the answer all day! xo Lucy
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DeleteI would probably put my recipe for lasagna even though I haven't made it in many years. Thank you for this chance at your giveaway. pgenest57 at aol dot com
ReplyDeleteLasagna! Such a good dish. Go for it, Paula.
DeleteThe recipe on my gravestone would have to be my grandma’s sandtart cookie recipe.
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Great idea, Christine!
DeleteI don't make any worthy of a receive on a gravestone.
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Not even a recipe for fruit crumble?
DeleteNo recipe's here. cheetahthecat1982ATgmailDOTcom
ReplyDeleteI really enjoyed reading this today! It reminded me of my grandmother's fudge which always turned out great! lindaherold999(at)gmail(dot)com
ReplyDeleteI'm glad the post gave you happy memories, Linda. Maybe with a few more practice sessions I'll have the recipe down pat and my grandchildren will remember my fudge as fondly.
DeleteMaybe my chocolate chip cookies. ckmbeg (at) gmail (dot) com
ReplyDeleteAn excellent and timeless choice.
DeleteOh my what to choose. Shame you couldn't have a tombstone like those billboards that chance ever so often to another photo other than this would change according to the seasons.
ReplyDeleteI'm most often asked for my recipe for coconut cream pie or Ozark Honey Oatmeal Cookies, but I figure everyone I love already has that recipe by the time of my demise.
For fall, it would be my recipe for shoepeg corn/green bean casserole and say "Why be like everyone else when you can stand out in the crowd!" It's a delicious variation of the standard green bean casserole everyone thinks of for the upcoming holidays filled with goodies like water chestnuts, onions, celery soup, and cheddar cheese.
For winter, it would be my Three Day Coconut Cake, which is adaptation of my Mom's fresh crated coconut cake. It would say "Sometimes to revamp something improves it - not replaces it."
Spring reminds me of fresh and colorful so it would be my Peach Delight. It's a nut based crust covered with a cream cheese mixture followed by a layer of fresh peaches and finally by a jello mixture. It can be adapted with any fresh fruit and different jello flavor. It might say "Spring is the time for fresh now things and time to explore them!"
Summer brings to mind and abundance of garden veggies and trying to find ways to use what we have an abundance of. My recipe might be a zucchini cake or eggplant casserole - each different and delicius. The saying might be "Enjoy each season by learning new ways to enjoy and appreciate each one!"
Thank you for the yummy recipe and the chance to win a copy of one of the books in my Haunted Yarn Shop mystery series.
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Kay, I bet a solar-powered gizmo of some kind could scroll through recipes on a gravestone. Or, have gravestone that's as wide as it is deep and put your spring, summer, fall, and winter recipes one per side. They all sound delicious!
DeleteThis looks yummy! I would put either angel food cake or pumpkin roll on my gravestone. Either is delicious and I make often!
ReplyDeleteAnd I love both!
DeleteButter mochi
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Oooh.
DeleteMaybe the apple cider caramels I've been making that are popular amongst my family and coworkers. Or the pink divinity ice cream recipe I created for my mom.
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Both sound good, Alicia!
DeleteChocolate babka. saubleb(at)gmail(dot)com
ReplyDeleteYum!
DeleteI rather admire those who add a recipe, but that would not be for me!
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I would not add one on my gravestone. cherierj(at)yahoo(dot)com
ReplyDeleteOn of my favorite recipes is my Mom's walnut sugar cookies, but I wouldn't put it on my gravestone.
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Five spice chicken
ReplyDeletejtcgc at yahoo dot com
What an interesting idea.
ReplyDeleteAlthough people are happy to eat what I cook, I can't say I've been overwhelmed with requests for recipes!
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Fascinating, Molly! (And the fudge looks supernaturally delicious.)
ReplyDeleteThanks, Cleo!
DeleteI love this blog post. Very fun! A recipe on my gravestone might be Cinderella Pink Fairytale Fudge because I'm celebrating the 10th year anniversary of my Fudge Shop Mystery Series this fall and that was the first recipe I made for that series and Book 1, First-Degree Fudge.
ReplyDeleteNifty!
DeleteChicken Soup Thank you deborahortega229@yahoo.com
ReplyDeleteA nice choice.
DeleteThank you for the tiktok channel too. I subscribed. I'm a fan of cemeteries and gravestones. I think the apple pie recipe I found and tweaked over the years. It's the one requested by young'n and Mr. B for any time that calls for a dessert. VWinship at aol dot com
ReplyDeleteWonderful!
DeleteWhat a fun blog post! Mine would be my pumpkin bars recipe. Thanks for the chance.
ReplyDeletejarjm1980(at)hotmail(dot)com
I think I'd like that recipe!
DeleteThis looks like a fun and easy recipe. I am not much of baker so I would choose this one for the gravestone.
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I love this post, Molly. Who knew people put recipes on gravestones? Obviously, you did. From now on, as I cook, I'll ask myself if I should put the recipe on my gravestone.
ReplyDeleteThe question that will plague all of us from now on: yes it's a good recipe, but is it good enough to go on my gravestone?
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DeleteI love this post. I've seen a couple of recipes in gravestones and always find it so interesting. aprilbluetx at yahoo dot com
ReplyDeleteIt really is interesting. Thanks for stopping by, April.
DeleteI teach a course on Mourning traditions and a course on food history -- recipes on gravestones! When worlds collide! I'd put my mother's mac 'n' cheese recipe on my gravestone. It's my go-to comfort food, connects the generations, and would offer comfort to those who miss me . . . or those who just love a good mac n cheese. bdewolfe at roadrunner (dot) com
ReplyDeleteMine would have to be for my Broccoli salad! tWarner419@aol.com
ReplyDeleteIt would either by my chili recipe or Lemon Icebox Pie recipe. Thank you for sharing the fudge recipe. I've never made fudge - too intimidated - but I may try this one. Thank you for the chance to win. madamhawk at gmail dot com
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